I’m not sure who first identified the acronym for shame, but it’s spot-on: Should Have Already Mastered Everything. In other words, I should be perfect. I should understand this. I should know how to do this. I should… fill in the blank. Author Brené Brown, who spent many years researching shame says, “Where perfectionism exists,Continue reading “The Toxicity of Shame”
Author Archives: Roger Cahak
Real Men Eat Quiche: And They Cry Too
Not long ago, my 4 ½ year old granddaughter, Charli, and I were playing while her little sister napped. She was smitten with some superhero character she had seen on TV and began to act out a battle scene. But, when Charli got a little too rambunctious I said to her, “Be careful honey. YouContinue reading “Real Men Eat Quiche: And They Cry Too”
Seashells and Balloons:
Remembering College Basketball’s Most Unconventional Coach Al McGuire and Dick Enberg with the author circa 1980-something. Forty-two years ago, on March 28, 1977, Marquette University Basketball Coach Al McGuire had a date with destiny. Three months earlier he had thrown the college basketball world a curveball, announcing his retirement, effective at the end of theContinue reading “Seashells and Balloons:”
What Will Be
Does the long, winding road lead to a destination, an intersection, or a dead end? I have baggage. Sometimes it feels like a ten-ton anchor around my neck. I’m a survivor. But before I was a survivor, I was a victim, and victimhood dies hard. It took me a long time to realize that too oftenContinue reading “What Will Be”
United by Neverland
Wade Robson, Director Dan Reed, and James Safechuck from the documentary film “Leaving Neverland.” I was ten years old when my family moved into a new neighborhood in our little Midwestern town. That summer, an older boy who lived a couple blocks away befriended me. He wasn’t an international superstar but he had something commonContinue reading “United by Neverland”
Roger M. Cahak 